Three Tips for Raising a Little Visionary
Remember the time when you were dreaming of having a child, in your heart you just knew your child would be well behaved and delightful in every way. We all make this rookie mistake and the reality is our children have their own personalities, desires, wants and needs and if they challenge us then perhaps it is we who should adapt and change.
As a parent myself, I continue to learn to let go of expectations and look at my children as unique individuals who are guided intuitively by something I refer to as their soul print, which can also be defined as a uniqueness blue print designed by their inner being. All we need to do is recognize our child’s soul print so we can relate to them well. Then all that is required is to give them the tools and knowledge on how to create their own reality according to their uniqueness.
The good news is you can start today with these 3 tips on Raising a Little Visionary:
1. Embrace Your Child’s Uniqueness
Who is your child? What are they trying to tell you?
Often we are so busy trying to mold our children to adapt to the common behavior expectations, that we miss the point. Not to mention this type of molding tends to lead to more worrying about what needs to be fixed in your child.
As a society we spend far too much time integrating children to be the same as other children so they ‘fit in’, but this approach just chips away at all the characteristics that make them unique. Imagine if we could observe our children and understand their inner motivations and interests and then really embrace that uniqueness and help them to do so as well. All it takes is letting go of the program of how ‘they should be’ and instead observe ‘who they really are’.
In addition to observing your child, I recommend to all parents to invest in a full astrological birth chart on your child. These charts always contain useful insights that make you stop and think ‘yeah, you know they really are like that’. It will highlight possible challenges and motivations which can also guide your parenting technique so it is tailored to each child.
2. Change Your Program
A common mistake that people make is thinking that they can shape their children without having to change their lives. Children learn from the examples of others (not so much their words) so if you want your children to be little visionaries, the best way is to become a Visionary yourself, start today. Start learning about how to transform yourself into a Visionary and the person you have always wanted to be but never took the time to be, once you do take this time you will get more out of life than you can imagine right now. Without a doubt, you will be the biggest inspiration a child can have if you do this.
3. Give The Gift of Gratefulness
When you a grateful, amazing things start to happen. Not only are you more positive, your children will become more positive as well and uplifted. They thrive on positive energy and you can make this a theme in your household by always being in a state of gratefulness. You can play a great little game where anytime a family members complains about anything they have to then immediately reveal what about the situation also makes them grateful. Children will keep you on your toes with this.
When you are grateful you welcome more into your life to be grateful for and you align yourself the vibration of receiving.
I can only imagine how amazing children’s lives will be by the time they are adults if they are given the gift of gratefulness early.
Desire vs. Intention
1. What is Desire?
Desire is defined as a strong wish to have something. We all have desires and we launch new ones all the time often after recognising what we don’t want. A desire can range from wanting that wonderful home made chocolate that is available at the Farmers Market or on the other end of the scale, desiring to be a multi millionaire with the ability to own thousands of chocolate stores.
Desires are wonderful to have, they allow us to envision the life we want to lead. However desire by itself doesn’t get you towards your goals. Energetically, it can remain a wish that may or not be fulfilled depending on your beliefs. For instance, it is easy to fulfill your desire to have homemade chocolate as there is no gap between the action and the belief. You know that you can go to the market on the weekend and buy it. It is within your realm of possibility. To be the multimillionaire though, that may be a different story. Our belief systems often tell us that being a multi millionaire is much harder and requires good luck and perseverance, which may well be the case, however most importantly it requires intention.
2. What is Intention
Intention is defined as an aim or plan. Energetically it means you are agreeing to do what it takes to achieve your desire knowing that it is yours to have. Intention is the difference between getting your goal or not.
When you set an intention to eat that homemade chocolate, you know you have to get out of your chair, get dressed, jump in the car and buy it. It is a series of actions required to get what you want, knowing you will have it. The same applies to being a multi millionaire. Sitting back and waiting for it to show up lowers your chances of getting it, if however you intend to be one, you align to your goal and will take the actions required to get it as you know it will happen.
3. Which One Gets Results – Desire or Intention?
Both however intention is the only thing that actively gets you what you want. Desire is the recognition that you want something and Intention gives you the energy to get it. You will struggle to get what you want by only focusing on desire as chances of someone bringing you that homemade chocolate out of the blue are less than if you got it yourself. If you set an intention to get it such as going yourself or asking someone, you will close the gap between wanting and having.
Recognise your desires and launch as many as possible. As per my other teachings, take time to imagine what it is like to have your desire and how you would feel when you do. This helps you become energetically connected to what you want and determine whether this desire is right for you.
Then set your intention to get it, knowing that you will take the steps needed to have it. This will inspire you to take the right steps towards your goal to ensure you achieve it.
Should I Continually Focus on What I Want?
There are many schools of thoughts on this one and a lot of Guru’s will tell you this is the fool proof method to get what you want. If that feels good, then go for it, however it is quite possible that eventually this method will shift your focus to asking why it hasn’t shown up yet. Then you will ultimately keep it from you for longer until you step out of the ‘waiting game’.
There is an easier way and quite possibly the quickest method – once you get clear about what you want and know you will get it, then you need to step back. Yes you can have it running as a thought in the background and fuel it with thoughts here and there, however you don’t have to say 500 or more affirmations on it everyday or keep revisiting your desire statement every hour of the day. Keep it in your periphery, do things that bring you joy to raise your vibration and it will come. This is how you allow it in to your field.
When people complicate things, it is a sign of ego. Everything that is natural and good in the world is simple and easy.
Raising Your Vibration with Gratitude
“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” – Melody Beattie
In the Oxford dictionary, the definition of being Grateful is the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation and to return kindness. My interpretation of this definition, is that there is an exchange of energy – you are thankful for receiving and as a result you express kindness (and love). When you practice being grateful for all that you already have, you are express a positive energy.
Several years ago I decided to do a Gratitude experiment and express my gratitude as much a possible throughout each day over a month. The results were astounding in terms of raising my vibration. I noticed that focusing on a situation or an object that I was grateful for, released an energy of pure love and I started receiving more things to be grateful for including opportunities, friendships, inspiring conversations and material items. All of sudden, my energy was pulsating higher and higher and I gained momentum towards feeling good and then amazing.
When it comes to the Law of Attraction – we bring to us more of the same of what we are giving out. If we are feeling grateful and excited about what we already have, the Universe will bring us more things to feel grateful about – it is the fundamental law of attraction. I recommend if you want to raise your vibration to attract more of what you desire into your life, than conduct a Gratitude experiment and start enjoying the results.
Here is how to do a Gratitude Experiment:
- Write a list of ten things you are grateful for each day in a notebook or journal. No need to get fancy, just any paper will do.
- Each day, add a theme to your gratitude list i.e. health, money, relationships and so on
- After a week, start adding your desires to the list as if you already received them i.e. I am grateful I have my coffee machine as I absolutely love making fresh coffee in the morning (try to add feeling when you talk about desires)
- Rotate your themes and keep adding new desires as if they have happened throughout the 28 days
- All throughout your day, be mindful of what you are grateful for. The longer you remain in a state of gratefulness throughout each day, the more amazing you will feel.
- At the end of each week, write a letter to someone telling them of all the wonderful situations, relationships and new opportunities that appeared in your life (those that happened and yet to come).
Bonne chance! Good Luck.
P.S. If you would prefer a step by step book on Gratitude, I recommend ‘The Magic’ by Rhonda Byrnes.
Law of Attraction Basic Recipe
1. Get Clear About What You Want
The first step in the Law of Attraction is to get really clear about what you want. It is a crucial step to attract your desire easily and effortlessly.
Many people have a rough idea of what they want in life, however they leave the detail open to interpretation. When you don’t clarify exactly what you want, you can get very mixed results. We have all experienced this in our lives.
For instance, if you asked your Real Estate Agent to find your ideal house in the countryside and provided no more details, imagine the wide variety of options your agent would present to you just to see what you like? It is certainly the long way to find what you want. Imagine instead if you narrowed right down to what must be included; quiet road, double garage, 4 bedrooms, modern kitchen, mudroom, within a mile of town, 3 stables and so on.
Most of us would naturally provide our agent with our requirement. Therefore, doesn’t it make sense to tell the Universe or even yourself, exactly what you want when you have a desire? Get clear on the details and ask yourself why you want it. When you can answer the ‘why’, then you will get to know how much you really want it.
2. Raise Your Vibration
The next part of the formula is to raise your vibration so you are in alignment with your new desire. If you want a new house, think about how your would feel when you own it – that is the feeling you need to align with (or generate regularly) to make it happen.
Here are just a few ways to raise your vibration:
- Change to more positive thoughts
- Do things that bring your joy and generate good feelings
- Surround yourself with positive people
This is the part where you allow the Universe to deliver your desire. Many people find this the trickiest one to understand. The best way to allow, is to keep your desire in your peripheral vision and always running in the background (with positive expectation). One reason why the background if effective, is because when you keep focused on it every single moment of the day, you can easily start shifting your focus to wondering why it hasn’t come in yet. Once you do this, then you tend to hold it at a distance. If you generate lots of joyful emotion when you launch a desire, then keeping up your positive expectation is much simpler than it is to focus constantly on the actual desire.