Is People Pleasing Stopping You From Living Your Ideal Life?

Is People Pleasing Stopping You From Living Your Ideal Life?

Is People Pleasing Stopping You From Living Your Ideal Life?

We are all guilty of people pleasing in some form or another however what may be surprising is how many of us are pleasing people we don’t even particular like or respect. I have witnessed people bending over backwards to try and convince others that they are worthy of their attention but at the end of the day why do we care? 

I remember there was a stage in my life when I have tried to please aquaintances to gain some mythical approval from people who just weren’t nice or worthy of my attention. Then one day I stopped, I had that ahha moment. I realised I had no desire to waste my time getting approval from someone I would never want to be like. Perhaps we fear being rejected by those who offer the most condemnation to others, those that can declare us to not be ‘normal’. However what we may need to remind ourselves of is that the most successful people are not only unique, they also completely embrace their uniqueness and great things always come into their lives.

The evidence would suggest that our desire to gain approval comes from our need to belong and fit in, even at the consequence of our true selves. Our whole society convinces us that we must fit in or suffer the consequences. We all learn this early on at school due to the suffering one experiences when they are different.

Giving in to the urge to fit in only takes us further away from what I like to refer as our Soul Print’, the basic blue print of what makes us unique and what unique path is ours and ours alone to make our heart sing. By choosing to just fit in, we take ourselves away from who we truly are and our happiness.

Have you ever been in a group where you know you must act a certain way or talk a certain way to be accepted even though you just don’t feel like these people are ‘your people’? Somewhere along the line, you convinced yourself that you need their respect and approval and by doing so you have merged into a new person, someone different to your true you. Maybe someone you don’t even recognise or enjoy anymore.

When I first started my journey in recreating my life, a friend was interested in doing some of the same things I was doing. She told me however that she won’t be able to because she would end up ‘different’ like me. It was kind of weird hearing that however on the flip side it was an eye opener to know that someone would choose to keep themselves small so they didn’t rock the boat and appear ‘ not normal’ to people who weren’t striving for more themselves. Why is it that we don’t embrace being different and use it to our advantage? 

All I know is that by choosing to be me, a little different with unique opinions and ideas, I have attracted lots of new people, conversations and opportunities into my life that are far more enriching than the ‘normal things’ I was attracting when I was worried about what people thought. Life is far more interesting now as I am creating my world around my interests.

Isn’t it time we all started living our lives according to our dreams, desires and interests?

If you believe so then as of today, go out and be YOU and do it well

Go shine your light on the world. Stop people pleasing and just be YOU and only YOU, so that your whole world opens up and greets you and invites you into a fun and interesting era.

Law of Attraction Basic Recipe

Law of Attraction Basic Recipe

Law of Attraction Basic Recipe

1. Get Clear About What You Want

The first step in the Law of Attraction is to get really clear about what you want. It is a crucial step to attract your desire easily and effortlessly.

Many people have a rough idea of what they want in life, however they leave the detail open to interpretation. When you don’t clarify exactly what you want, you can get very mixed results. We have all experienced this in our lives.

For instance, if you asked your Real Estate Agent to find your ideal house in the countryside and provided no more details, imagine the wide variety of options your agent would present to you just to see what you like? It is certainly the long way to find what you want. Imagine instead if you narrowed right down to what must be included; quiet road, double garage, 4 bedrooms, modern kitchen, mudroom, within a mile of town, 3 stables and so on.

Most of us would naturally provide our agent with our requirement. Therefore, doesn’t it make sense to tell the Universe or even yourself, exactly what you want when you have a desire? Get clear on the details and ask yourself why you want it. When you can answer the ‘why’, then you will get to know how much you really want it.

2. Raise Your Vibration

The next part of the formula is to raise your vibration so you are in alignment with your new desire. If you want a new house, think about how your would feel when you own it – that is the feeling you need to align with (or generate regularly) to make it happen.

Here are just a few ways to raise your vibration:

  • Visualisation
  • Gratitude
  • Change to more positive thoughts
  • Do things that bring your joy and generate good feelings
  • Surround yourself with positive people

3. Allowing

This is the part where you allow the Universe to deliver your desire. Many people find this the trickiest one to understand. The best way to allow, is to keep your desire in your peripheral vision and always running in the background (with positive expectation). One reason why the background if effective, is because when you keep focused on it every single moment of the day, you can easily start shifting your focus to wondering why it hasn’t come in yet. Once you do this, then you tend to hold it at a distance.  If you generate lots of joyful emotion when you launch a desire, then keeping up your positive expectation is much simpler than it is to focus constantly on the actual desire.